Archive for November, 2013


Posted in MIDDLE-EAST POLITICS with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on November 24, 2013 by drjgelb

Just as the sanctions against Iran really start to bite, the U.S. administration becomes delusional and suddenly accepts the word of a new Iranian President (who was a member of the previous administration), of a nation whose Ultimate Leader is not the President! It is Ayatollah Khameini and his panel of Imams that rule Iran. It beggars belief that Obama’s advisors don’t fully appreciate these facts and must have communicated their scepticism to him, so why loosen the sanctions when they are working? If that isn’t inexplicable enough, the concessions agreed to by Iran do NOT require them to cease enriching Uranium, nor will they have to dismantle a single centrifuge or the new reactor that is being built to weapons-enabling specifications!

Get it really clear my friends, there is NO NEED for Uranium enrichment in order to produce nuclear power for domestic consumption. So WHY does Iran insist on enriching Uranium? Duh!!! Homer Simpson could work that question out!! Iran will now have the ability to restart the push for a nuclear weapon when they decide to do so and they will ensure that no Inspectors will ever find the location where the work is being done. Why won’t the rest of the world take their promise to destroy Israel seriously? Because it’s the Jews who are being threatened with destruction once again! The U.S. could not tolerate nuclear missiles on Cuba for a minute and brought the world to the brink of nuclear war in its brinkmanship with the Soviet Union. But tiny Israel, surrounded by 400,000,000 declared enemies, is expected to sit quietly while Iran plots and schemes to be the exalted state to rid the Middle East of the Jews, a goal they talk about constantly in their national media.

Today is a dark day for Israel, for Jewish people everywhere and for the non-Muslim World. Mark my words!


CHARGECARD – I received my Chargecard today and I love it! What a great idea! Now I’ll always have a cable with me but it won’t take up any room & won’t get all tangled! And it’s even cheaper than the OEM cable!! We’ll done guys! Glad I backed you!!

Posted in PERSONAL with tags , , , on November 19, 2013 by drjgelb



Posted in PERSONAL with tags , , , on November 15, 2013 by drjgelb

“At a time when many people around the world are living into their tenth decade, the longest longitudinal study of human development ever undertaken offers some welcome news for the new old age: our lives continue to evolve in our later years, and often become more fulfilling than before. Begun in 1938, the Grant Study of Adult Development charted the physical and emotional health of over 200 men, starting with their undergraduate days. The now-classic ‘Adaptation to Life’ reported on the men’s lives up to age 55 and helped us understand adult maturation. Now George Vaillant follows the men into their nineties, documenting for the first time what it is like to flourish far beyond conventional retirement. Reporting on all aspects of male life, including relationships, politics and religion, coping strategies, and alcohol use (its abuse being by far the greatest disruptor of health and happiness for the study’s subjects), ‘Triumphs of Experience’ shares a number of surprising findings. For example, the people who do well in old age did not necessarily do so well in midlife, and vice versa. While the study confirms that recovery from a lousy childhood is possible, memories of a happy childhood are a lifelong source of strength. Marriages bring much more contentment after age 70, and physical aging after 80 is determined less by heredity than by habits formed prior to age 50. The credit for growing old with grace and vitality, it seems, goes more to ourselves than to our stellar genetic makeup.”

In Vallant’s own words, the #1 most important finding from the Grant Study is this:

    “The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points to a straightforward five-word conclusion: Happiness is love. Full stop.”

You can purchase your own copy of Triumphs of Experience by visiting Amazon.



Posted in SEX with tags , , , , on November 5, 2013 by drjgelb

An interesting website where people pose questions to the audience of unknown cybertherapists, credentialled or not, and await the flow of opinions. Here’s an example of a problem that I commented on.’

Is my relationship over? HELP. Please.

Here’s my situation: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years (I’m 23 and he’s 27) and we moved in with each other 1 year ago. He is everything that I want in a husband- physically attractive, fun, loving, and professionally successful. Within the past 6 months, something has changed and we fight more often. However, he still plans on proposing to me in the very near future. I was on board with this until I started medical school in August. All of a sudden, I was bombarded with a 100 intelligent men & I found myself becoming attracted to several of them. Because we work in groups & are with eachother every day, we have all become friends and hang out on the weekends together. Recently, I have found myself becoming romantically interested in a few of them (to the point that we hang out one-on-on for dinner and such). I am ashamed of it- but one of them kissed me. I told him that it was inappropriate and couldn’t happen again. It is important to point out that I would never date this man- and I am not interested in anyone else specifically.

I don’t know why this is happening. I have the perfect man right in front of me yet I’m finding myself wanting to hang out, talk to, get to know, party and flirt with other (less attractive) men. The desire is strong too. What is wrong with me? Is this normal? Is my relationship over? Am I falling out of love with my boyfriend? Please help.

My comment was:

Jerome Gelb replied 4th November 2013 at 1:15pm

Seems the two of you have hit the inevitable point where rose coloured glasses are off and being with a real human being reveals itself to be far more complex than starry-eyed romance. The two of you need to discuss monogamy and how you each feel about it. It’s only one of several paradigms utilised by people in relationships. Honesty and open communication about your needs may reveal startling truths but is preferable to cheating, lying and denying who you really are. See a non-judgemental relationship counsellor together, separately or both. It will support your truthfulness and may assist you in partner choices. Right now, cease tempting yourself, because you will certainly stray and then be conflicted. Stay real in your relationship, admit temptation and suggest seeking guidance. If he’s worth persisting with, he’ll value your honesty and the chance to deal with this very common issue in a more down to earth, honest and far less stressful manner.

Others commented too:

“the #1 REASON most relationships don’t make it is 1 person always wants more than what they have and that’s life, we will always want more than what we have. You should see urself in his shoes, how would u feel if he was doing that to you? Surround urself with females and stay clear of other guys, when u r bored have the guy ur with who is planning on purposing to you to hang out with you instead of those other guys”

And this:

“I feel like you have begun to take your boyfriend for granted, rather than treasuring him to the fullest. Have your personal feelings changed towards him in any way, besides the fighting? I think you, if you truly want to be with your boyfriend, need to pull back a little from the relationships with your coworkers and try not to have one on one time with them if you are finding the temptation so hard to resist. I don’t think your relationship is over but you need to stop with the other men and think about your boyfriend. What do you think he will do if he finds out about your relations with the other men? If you are having that much of an issue, I’d also suggest talking to your boyfriend about it. He obviously loves you, so tell him that you are feeling distant (it seems like you are becoming distant) and see if you can work through it. Best of luck!”

Overall, this site makes for very interesting reading and there’s no barrier to having your say. Everyone has something to offer others struggling with relating. There are many channels or topics. Have a go!!!

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